Apparently it has been almost 3 years since I have posted a single thing, and I’m alarmingly aware that I left with a cliffhanger. (Assuming anyone actually reads and cares, which if you do, yay! Thank you!)
The last couple years have been difficult, joyful, hard, normal, and then hell. I won’t go through every single thing because that would be boring and no one reads a blog for boring. But right now, lets talk about hell.
Hell. I don’t use that word lightly. I was raised with an overly religious mother whose favorite hobby was to rant about the sins of the world and all those who will be cast into the fiery pit. I was raised to believe that hell was a place you go after you die, if you’re a bad person or fell prey to the thousands of possible sins that Christianity wails about. What I didn’t know, what I never wanted to find out, was that hell can be right here.
As I talked about in previous posts, I was excited for something big and life changing. I was going to finally get a spinal fusion done and fix my back! Now I’m going to be honest, it felt like there were so many twists and turns and so many doctors and appointments, that I will not remember everything correctly. For a sort version, I was finally scheduled for surgery. It didn’t work out, and we decided to reschedule at a later time. As time went on I got immersed into my normal life with my kids and my husband and for anyone who doesn’t know me at all, its all just so… much. My life is a lot. I fell into a depression because I was dealing with life the way I normally had to, and I was mourning the healing that I expected to be going through. And as time went on I found my own body speaking up and telling me, “hey! We can’t wait anymore!” I was slowing down. I had stopped picking up my kids, bath times were getting neglected too many times because it hurt too much. I opted to sit and watch instead of play because of my pain. I was getting worse and worse with household chores and my depression grew with every little thing I had to give up or slow down on.
So I finally called it. It was time. I no longer cared if we were sure about our future in our home, or if we could afford for it to happen, or whether we had enough help. I was suffering and I needed help. Now. So I called the surgeon back and we got the ball rolling again. I went back to see him, got new x-rays, got poked and prodded and stared at by a whole team of people. I heard the word “deformity” so many times I started to feel like the Hunchback of Notre Dam. I had a lung function test, an MRI, cat scans, and then this weird test that I think they called the deer for some charming reason I can’t remember. But basically, I had to strip to nothing but my underwear, a piece of hospital paper gown taped to my chest in a useless but caring attempt at covering my chest. And I had to walk on a treadmill, practically naked, until the computers could get a good visualization of my walking and which way my body moves. Apparently it makes it easier for the surgeon to decide exactly which areas need work. I was happy to do any tests necessary to get this over with, but that one was particularly uncomfortable.
And after a very frustrating pre-op appointment(thank you NY city for your horrible drivers) I was cleared for surgery. I packed my bag, I talked it out, I was ready. They called and asked if maybe I could do it a day earlier, and eager to get it over with, I agreed. I wasn’t scared. I was thrilled. I was finally going to stand up straight! I was going to have a chance at a pain free life!
The day came and my husband drove me in around 5am. I was brought to a room that resembled an assembly line of patients. All cleared and ready for whatever surgery they were there for. I wondered what everyone else was doing, and whether my surgery was the most severe. Whether I was going to be the most badass patient because I was going to go through something so hard and terrible and I was going to kick it in the ass. During my little delusions, I did what was asked of me, changed into a trendy, breezy hospital gown, and all of a sudden I was laying down on the table and being pushed into the OR. The room simultaneously seemed so dark and so bright and surgeons and nurses and whoever were buzzing around me like busy little bees, eager to fix their queen. I had only a moment to panic, then someone I couldn’t see asked if I was ready, and slipped my oxygen mask on. I barely got to answer before I was out.
I hate to stop here, but my hips are hurting from sitting in a very hard library chair, and I’ve got to get home. But I’ll be back, and when I do, I’ll be waking up.
To be continued…